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Who are Xris and Pip?

We are passionate about queer psychotherapy, spirituality and embodiment. Xris (they/them) is a Registered Psychotherapist and somatic practitioner, and Pip (she/they) is a spiritual teacher and guide. Based in Toronto, we each maintain a private practice, and work together in groups, collaborative content creation on YouTube, and are in the process of writing a book about our unique experience of life in community. Today, our family consists of Xris (they/them), Pip (she/they) Alex (he/him), Mason (he/him), our wonderful children, Mylo (age 10, they/them), Dexter (age 9, they/them) and our cats, Artemis and Nyx, and dog, Rustle.

queer psychotherapy, spirituality, and embodiment

We’re working towards a world where all people having equitable access to excellent therapies, communities and supports. If you, or someone you love, is struggling to come to terms with intersections of identity, please reach out. Not only do we offer independent and collaborative services, but we are also connected to an extensive network of Queer, BIPOC, and ally care providers and therapists. See our resources page for more information.

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queer somatic psychotherapy

Xris - queer somatic psychotherapy

The intersections I work from are queer (2SLGBTIAQ+), polyam, kink, alternative family, body positive, and I specialize in religious trauma.

Contact Xris

xris. they/them.

Welcome to my queer somatic psychotherapy practice. I identify as queer and non-binary, and I offer a holistic approach to healing that understands the connection of body, mind and spirit.

My approach

My practice is grounded in a trauma-informed perspective. This includes an anti-oppression lens, and a critical disability approach to wellness. I empower clients to build on their strengths by connecting them to their own embodied wisdom.

I take a gentle approach to helping clients become aware of patterns that no longer serve them. When life feels overwhelming or confusing, it can be difficult for us to navigate alone. This is one of the reasons people seek therapy. Within the safe container of the therapist-client relationship, we can make sense of our emotions as we tune in to the sensations in our bodies. And, above all, we can come into alignment with our authentic self.

modalities

  • attachment based
  • compassionate
  • EFFT
  • existential
  • expressive arts
  • integrative
  • IFS
  • person-centred
  • relational
  • somatic
  • strength-based
  • trauma focused

Specialties

  • addiction
  • anxiety and depression
  • divorce and family conflict
  • gender transitions
  • grief
  • life transitions
  • parenting
  • relationship issues
  • religious and spiritual trauma
  • trauma and ptsd

qualifications

  • MPS, with Certification in Spirituality and Psychotherapy (UofT)

  • Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) CRPO #009378

  • Ontario Association of Mental Health Professionals (OAMHP#6766-S)

  • BA Human Services, and Diploma in Social Service Work (SSW)

fees

Fees are based on a variety of factors that are not limited to income. Some things to consider include: student loans, survivor credit card debt, access to employment, immigration / refugee/ precarious status, disability, or supporting others beyond immediate family.  Because some of these factors might influence your decision making, we can work together to determine what rate is appropriate for your needs. I am open to discuss payment options before or during our first session. Then you may be added to a wait list for a sliding-scale sessions.

Annual IncomeCost per Session (50 min)
< $30,000Lower Sliding Scale (currently full)
$30,000 – $50,000$120
$50,000 – $70,000$135
$70,0000 – $90,000$150

** A few things to note: All payments must be sent before or right after each session. Costs are listed in Canadian dollars, and sales tax is on top of prices, which is set according to each province standard. I am set up to receive e-transfer to kris.hamilton.therapy@gmail.com or pre-authorized payment via VISA, set up through OWL’s online client portal, and receipts will be issued following each session for personal records, or insurance claim purposes.

Further Information

What Is Somatic psychotherapy?

Somatic psychotherapy is about understanding that there is a relationship between the body (soma) and mind (psyche). This happens in a variety of ways. For example, we may use a combination of physical techniques, including artistic expression, breath work, mindfulness, or other physical practices. Together, I can help you tune in to the sensations you feel in your body. And, in time, we will work towards experiencing relief from long held traumatic tension.

QUeer Somatic Psychotherapy

I use the term “queer somatic psychotherapy” as my way of fully embracing a positive view of all 2SLGBTIQA+ identities and experiences. Navigating the world of gender can feel complicated, especially for those who are two-spirit, trans, intersex, nonbinary, agender, or those with other genders. As a nonbinary person, I can relate to the experience of looking for someone who gets it. Additionally, it can be difficult to find a therapist who understands the diversity of sexuality and romantic attraction. This includes: lesbian, gay, bisexual, questioning, pan/omnisexual, kinky, polyamorous, ethical non-monogamous, biromantic, asexual, and other queer identities.

Person-Centred, Relational

Person-centred, relational therapy assumes that healing can happen in and through a therapeutic relationship where you are seen and accepted just as you are. In my practice I work with clients to (re)connect to themselves and their communities, fostering awareness and self-compassion. Therefore, making it possible for change and growth to take place.

Religious and Spiritual Trauma

I understand trauma as the disconnection from our mind – body – spirit that occurs when we are overwhelmed. And then trauma gets trapped in the body in ways that the mind cannot always express or understand. My area of specialty is working with the effects of Religious Trauma Syndrome, which can resemble complex post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). I know from my own experience just how damaging religious teachings can be to queer individuals. So, it is my practice to offer a holistic approach that considers the ways that we (re)connect to ourselves, our community, nature, and divinity.

Resources and Referrals

Pip and I work in tandem on many projects while each staying within our individual scope of practice. Pip’s work is in post-religious spirituality, and they provide a number of services to those seeking spiritual companionship and rites of passage.

Please reach out for additional resources, referrals or information.

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queer + trans spirituality

I specialize in experiential mysticism, psychedelic integration, embodied witchcraft, and Queer spirituality.

Hi, I’m Pippa. My pronouns are she/her (although they/them feels right, too). I’m a Spiritual Teacher, Mentor and Guide.

From as early as I can remember, I’ve been both Queer and spiritual. I’m one who moves in the thin spaces between worlds. My friends have called it everything from “special” to “spooky”, some people have feared, shamed, or demonized it, and religion worked very hard to suppress it. But I have come to know it as my power. You also have a power that is uniquely yours, and I’d be honoured to help you in your journey of (re)connecting with it.

I’m here for spiritual guidance, manifestation coaching, psychedelic integration, or personalized ritual. I offer a limited number of intuitive tarot readings per week (virtually on Zoom). And I can also be booked for public speaking, education or consultation sessions.

Take some time to feel around our website — If you resonate or feel a little nudge to reach out, please do! Even when my schedule gets super full, I try to reply within a few days.

Weekday Morning MeditationS

I lead a free meditation group every weekday morning from 7:30-7:50am. These sessions are open to anyone and are suitable for beginners and advanced practitioners alike. More Information…

Bookings/Fees

Time ServiceCost
Individual60 minSpiritual Guidance,
Manifestation Coaching,
or Personal Ritual
$80 – $120
Individual30 minTarot Reading
(3 cards)
$40 – $60
Individual45 minTarot Reading
(9 cards)
$60 – $80
Individual60 minPsychedelic Integration$80 – $120
Small Group
(6 or less)
90 minQueer Spirituality Groups$20 – $40
Couple, Cluster,
or Family
90 minSpiritual Guidance,
or Group Ritual
$120 – $180
Special EventscontactSpeaking, Presenting,
or Leading Ritual
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* Fees are based on a variety of factors that are not limited to income. Some things to consider include: student loans, survivor credit card debt, access to employment, immigration / refugee / precarious status, disability or supporting others beyond immediate family.  Because some of these factors might influence your decision-making, we can work together to determine what rate is appropriate for your needs. I am open to discuss payment options before or during our first session. You may be added to a wait list for sliding-scale or process groups.

All payments must be sent and processed before the beginning of each session by e-transfer or pre-authorized payment. Costs are listed in Canadian dollars, not including Harmonized Sales Tax (HST). Then receipts will be issued following each session.

A Spiritual companion for life transitions

Are you going through a life transition that could benefit from spiritual companionship, guidance, or ritual? I’m ready to journey alongside you wherever life is leading — trusting your inner wisdom, taking your own pace, and marking rites of passage together.

  • Funerals / Grieving the loss of a loved one / Preparing for death
  • Transitioning / Changing names or pronouns
  • Coming out (to friends, to religious family, or to yourself)
  • Weddings / Relationship Celebrations (polyamory and kink inclusive)
  • Career exploration or work changes
  • Coping with a physical or mental health diagnosis
  • Presence in the midst of suffering
  • Parenting / Adopting a child / Blessing a baby
  • Divorce / Separation / Conscious Uncoupling

Background

I grew up as an evangelical pastor’s kid, and spent my life training and preparing for spiritual leadership. I was ordained a priest in the Anglican tradition (Episcopalian), and although I’ve left institutional religion altogether, I wish them well.

For what it’s worth, I have a Master’s of Divinity (University of Toronto), and I served in religious leadership for over a decade. As a survivor of “reparative therapy”, ie: the ex-gay movement, I talk openly about my personal experience of suicidality, bipolar disorder, and psychosis in the aftermath of religious abuse. Some parts of my life story were featured as the subject of a 2018 CBC Documentary series, Devout+Out. The documentary is still available to stream on YouTube or CBC, but a lot has changed since then!

I had a soul-crushing emotional and psychological breakdown in 2018, which took my journey of spiritual awakening into uncharted territory, and was a catalyst in my gender transition.

I’m a proud Queer and trans, nonbinary, witchy woman. I honour the Queer Spirits and Transcestors in whose lineage I stand, in whose craft I work, and in whose flow I move. ✨🤘🏼

FAQs

Why do I use Tarot?

Tarot is a popular divination tool that has been used in folk-spirituality for centuries. First, we ask a question (the clearer the question, the more direct the answer). Then, I shuffle the deck at random, and draw some cards. Finally, I help to interpret the message and offer guidance for possible next steps. Although anyone can use Tarot in this way, it’s often helpful to have a trusted reader who is steeped in subconscious symbols and imagery… and most importantly, it can be super helpful to have a neutral, grounded, outside opinion when making any decision.

You can ask all sorts of questions (about career, romance, finances, family, etc.) and the cards will do the rest! I don’t practice future predicting or fortune-telling. I use Tarot because it is a tool that offers a “higher” vantage point to look at a current situation with new perspective.

Disclaimer: The Rider-Waite-Smith Tarot, which is full of “Western” occult symbolism, has a clear, white-European bias and assumes gender polarity. For this reason, I primarily use Isabella Rotman’s “This Might Hurt” deck because it features BIPOC, trans bodies, and Queer love.

What is manifestation coaching?

We’re always, already manifesting something. As we examine areas of our life, we can ask: Does this feel life-giving, fruitful and expansive? Or does it feel draining, thorny, and restrictive?

There’s a lot of unhelpful messaging out there about manifestation. It’s become a buzzword in many “spiritual spaces”, but often reflects nothing more than capitalist consumerism. Part of my work is to help (re)activate your imagination to think beyond the dreams you’re being sold. Our minds are constantly bombarded by content designed to promote spiritual bypassing, emotional denial, unhealthy “beauty” standards (rooted in ableism, ageism, fatphobia, racism, etc.), scarcity mindsets, and an overall culture of competition. There are big, powerful corporations that profit from your disempowerment, self-doubt, and fear. Billions of dollars are spent on advertising and messaging designed to sow weeds in your mind — and those same corporate entities coincidentally peddle “weed killer”. The whole manifestation game is rigged. So it’s understandable and valid if you’ve been feeling unsuccessful, so far <3

When we get into alignment with our self, others, and our planet in the present moment, we sow good seeds that grow into the future. Whatever takes root in your mind now will be what you harvest later. Many great spiritual Teachers have taught this principle in one way or another, and I practice it in my own life. If you’re interested in learning how to use the spiritual principles behind manifestation, let’s chat.

What is psychedelic integration?

Humans have used psychedelic plant medicines around the globe for millennia, usually under the guidance of a traditional wisdom keeper or spiritual companion. Nowadays however, many people experience substance-induced states or “trips” in the context of partying with friends, out in nature, or in the comfort of their own homes, which can be wonderful and/or overwhelming.

If you or someone you love has had an overwhelming experience (whether positive or negative) and could use some help understanding and integrating it, don’t hesitate reach out. As someone who has experienced many altered states of consciousness personally (including hell-loops, ego disillusion, reality bending, apocalyptic visions, hallucinations, external entities, etc.) I know how unsettling some “bad trips” can be. Together we can heal and integrate psychedelic experiences to offer deeper connection to self, others, and the interconnected life of our planet.

What do I mean by “Queer Spirituality”?

Transparency

Firstly, this is my way of flagging to you that I understand that exploring spirituality comes with risk and potential for real harm. Sadly, there are many organizations and individuals who would seek to gain power from your vulnerability. Institutional religion has traumatized countless 2SLGBTIAQ+ people, and has left many feeling robbed of spiritual connection. If you have any doubts or concerns that your religious or spiritual community does not understand, love, accept and affirm the fullness of your identity, please reach out.

Intersectional Lens

Secondly, this is my way of centring the spiritual experiences of 2SLGBTIAQ+ people. Most of “western spirituality” reflects the opinions of cisgender, heterosexual, European men (and occasionally women). It’s time for more balance. Therefore, I am interested in highlighting the poetry, art, music, theologies, philosophies, and spiritual practices of Queer folks. My Queer lens is also intersectional. In other words, working to shift the cultural locus of power by prioritizing Black lives, Indigenous folks, People of Colour, and persons living with disability. It’s long past time to decolonize spirituality.

Embracing the weird

Finally, when I say “Queer spirituality”, I recognize that all spiritual experiences feel a bit weird, odd, peculiar, strange (aka queer) at first. It’s often hard to know who to talk to when we’ve had mystical experiences, extra-sensory visions, psychedelic trips, mysterious dreams, spiritual encounters, or enter altered states of consciousness. In fact, spirituality can feel so strange that it’s often difficult to integrate back into “ordinary” life.

No matter how you’ve experienced (or not experienced) “spiritual stuff” is 100% valid, and I’m here to help you sort it through. Don’t worry, I’m no stranger to strange.

Why do I use the word “queer”?

The term “queer” has been used as a pejorative for centuries. Originally the word was used to refer to anyone/anything that was seen as weird, odd, peculiar, or strange. Over time, however, it became more commonly weaponized against anyone/anything perceived to be gender variant or deemed sexually “deviant”.

I acknowledge that some 2SLGBTIAQ+ folks don’t like or use the term “queer”. And some people still find its use offensive, which I understand and empathize with. To clarify, my use of the word comes from my own lived experience, and is intended to reclaim and empower queerness for myself and the communities I’m part of.

Here are some resources to check out if you want to know more:
“What does queer mean?” from LGBTQ Nation
“What Does ‘Queer’ Mean? 9 LGBTQ+ People Explain How They Love, Hate, And Understand The Word ‘Queer'” from Them.Us

What do I mean by “trans”?

I see the world through a trans lens. I mean this in 2 ways: (1) transgender, and (2) social transgression

  1. Transgender: I was assigned male at birth, and spent most of my life being identified as a “girly boy” who grew into a “feminine man”. I have transitioned my outward expression of gender (socially and hormonally) to better match my interior experience of gender. That’s the way I’m trans… however, there are many ways to be trans! Basically, I use “trans” as an umbrella term for when someone no longer identifies with the gender they were assigned at birth (whether they change name, pronouns, appearance, social behaviour, physical body, or not).
  2. Social Transgression: For too long, life has been dictated by so-called social “norms”, as a way for patriarchal systems of power to maintaining control over your body, mind, emotions and spirit. Therefore, I applaud and encourage gender rebellion, line-blurring, and wilful transgression against all patriarchal and colonial systems of control.
What does it mean to be nonbinary?

Nonbinary is an umbrella term used by many people whose lived experiences do not conform to the traditional gender norms of a society that only understands and values two, so-called “opposite”, genders. My personal history with gender conformity, like many other trans and nonbinary folx, was unnecessarily painful and complicated. Thankfully, humanity is beginning to wake up to see the limitations of strictly polarized thinking and we are beginning to embrace a wider spectrum of gender expression and identity.

What is spiritual appropriation?

As an un-invited, white, European settler on this land, I acknowledge the problematic and harmful trend in many spiritual communities towards cultural and spiritual appropriation. That’s why I do my best to stay in my lane. I only share from my own lived experience of spirituality — honouring keepers of wisdom and tradition in their original context. The forms and practices I use in all individual sessions, gatherings and meditations draw from my personal practice, which has been informed by: (1) universalist, post-christian mysticism, (2) animistic paganism drawing from my own eclectic witchcraft, (3) “western esotericism” via ceremonial magick and (4) contemporary scientific research on techniques to calm the mind and ground the body (like Generative Somatics).

What about straight, cisgender people?

I work with all kinds of people, including folks who identify as straight and cisgender. Although the emphasis of my work is journeying alongside people with 2SLGBTIAQ+ experience and their families or friends, I’m open to working with any earnest seeker.

Additional Resources for Queer Spirituality

Check out our resources page for additional resources, books, support networks, and accounts to follow!

** Reminder: My scope of practice is spiritual teaching, compassionate presence, and guidance through rites of passage. Please contact Xris if you are seeking psychotherapy, counselling, or mental health supports.

Don’t hesitate to reach out for more information, resources, or referrals.

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Contact Us

Connections and Bookings

Don’t hesitate to reach out by email or phone, or simply contact us using the form, below. We look forward to connecting!

We acknowledge that we work on the traditional land of the Anishinaabeg, Huron-Wendat and Petun First Nations, the Seneca, and most recently, the Mississaugas of the Credit River. This territory is part of the Dish with One Spoon Wampum Belt Covenant, an agreement between the Iroquois Confederacy and Confederacy of the Ojibwe and allied nations to peaceably share and care for the resources around the Great Lakes. We support indigenous sovereignty and the vital role of Indigenous peoples in our world. Here’s some resources we’ve found helpful: how non-indigenous Canadians can do better, how to work alongside indigenous-led conservation, and the “Indigenous Ally Toolkit”.

We’re based in Toronto, Canada (under the Toronto Purchase Treaty No.13), and we offer all services virtually wherever you are.

xrisandpip@gmail.com
(647) 424-4167

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